The Household Chart
I believe in equality in relationships. Naturally, most young people today would agree with that, but I’m a little more rabid than most people.
Household chores should, at least in the long run, be split fairly. Problem is, almost everybody have a skewed image of what 50/50 is. Statistics* show that even in hetero couples that believe themselves to be equal, the woman usually does more domestic chores.
Is this the case in my relationship? Most likely not, I would say the case is the opposite. (I’m not just trying to make my own life more comfortable here.) My point is that the perception of how much two persons in a relationship contribute may not be accurate.
So, I introduce… The Household Chart! When i first pitched the idea of keeping track of all chores to my boyfriend his reaction was that it sounded utterly unromantic. A couple of minutes later he had created a Google spreadsheet with some nice graphs.
We’ve been doing this for a few weeks now. Or, he has. I pretty soon forgot the chart completely, while he took the whole thing very competitively and actually started doing even more chores than before.
I wish I could say this was my genious master plan all along.
Maybe we’re both ok with him doing more chores than me, maybe we’re not, but that’s not the point here. What matters is that the inequality becomes visible, and thereby easier to address. In our case, one good effect is that when I actually do fill out the chart I feel more obliged to clean and cook as it looks so bad when I don’t.
Now go and make your own household charts!
* Det kallas kärlek, Carina Holmberg
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